Christian Morality, Sex, Marriage
and the Concept of Sexual Purity.

     The real reason for sexual purity is that sexuality does touch us on the playing field of our souls. There is no separation between our sexuality and our soul so powerfully were we created and brought to earth with it. It is tragic that the one book that cries out for sexual purity, the bible is so full of torturous and misleading teachings that it scars people’s souls as much as promiscuous sexuality itself does. Though deep wisdom is available in the bible, time bombs were also planted in it by misguided prophets and ancient bible scribes who did not know where their ignorance ended and their wisdom began. So misleading in fact are those teachings that those who have chosen to follow it hook line and sinker became many of the most violent people in history, so it makes no sense to follow its designs even though there are some brilliant guiding lights present there. What sense to be pure with our sexualities only to fall for lies that adulterate our souls in other ways. It takes an awful lot of courage to be pure with our sexualities and to be pure with it is the work of pure love. But when we are pure with our sexualities for moral reasons we do not achieve what we would like on spiritual levels. With the weird kind of twisting that comes with moralist consciousness we become less not more pure, even though we might remain virgin white. So close is the link between mind, sex and soul that perversion in the mind creates perversion of both body and soul. Bible morality does pervert the mind because much of the moral foundations are structured on top of lies.     

     The basic bible party line is to live a moralistic life (for the benefit of your soul) and wait for marriage to have sex. If we do everything right, according to the bible, God will be well pleased with us, our souls will shine, and we will eventually find ourselves happy within the context of a permanent union of marriage with another soul, of the opposite sex, making babies until the womb of the woman dries itself out. When the young are advised to abstain from sex until marriage, even when they are engaged, they are told to be realistic about their future with someone. Just because you think you'll marry them now doesn't mean you will. Nothing is guaranteed until you are at your wedding, such people say. What they don’t say is that nothing is guaranteed in marriage either. The word marriage ideally means, a permanent love union that lasts. Even more ideally it would mean pure love between committed souls. People who follow the bible and put their full faith in traditional family values are walking into a trap. An ambush of forces is waiting to betray the ignorant soul who walks blindly into marriage and the closed male dominated egocentric situation that is too often found there.  

     ‘Only’ in marriage can sexual intimacy achieve the goals it is meant to serve think many Christians. After reading this book it should be clear that sex does have a goal and that it does provide a doorway into love and oneness. The chief justification and insistence on reserving sexual union for marriage is the concern that sexual union is meant to express desire for a deep and committed relationship with another and eventual union of souls. What is not seen or understood by devote Christians is that standing in the isle, even with all our good religious intentions to embark on our marriage of souls, does not mean we will know anything about the real meaning of this nor the how. In fact all the ideas in our heads, about bible, church and God can destroy the intention of union. When we have more faith in a book than in our own souls, we will not surrender and trust either our own or our partners soul. The Marriage of Souls comes with some of the same intentions of the bible; it is to make beautiful relationships between souls that last.  

     Modern people have a casual notion of sex; they think it is natural for those who love one another to engage in sexual union, whether married or not, and often whether of the same sex or not. Others see any sexual activity outside of marriage as promiscuous including of course all homosexual activity. Such people would like to make a case to us that happiness, true intimacy, and sexual fulfillment are more naturally found within faithful marriages. What they will not tell you is that today, even in Christian homes, or especially in Christian homes, is that they are the most dangerous places on earth for women and children to live in. The chances of violence to women and children are much higher in their own homes then on the streets. (See volume four The Second Coming of Pure Love’s chapter on why the traditional family must change) Add to this the reality that child sexual abuse is an epidemic worse than sexually transmitted diseases and we have a wolf, the bible, leading us away from one sin yet inviting us into another hell with sweet words that strike like whips on our souls. It is horrible to contemplate but the facts say that for murder victims under twelve, 57 percent of the murderers are their natural patents or stepparents. The bible, in the final analysis, though laced with some deep wisdom, promotes ignorance and thus hell on earth. And in no place is this truer in its application to young people preparing themselves for marriage and sexual relations.   

     What are the reasons for saying that it is appropriate for sexual union to take place only within marriage? It is hardly deniable that sexual union creates powerful bonds between individuals, even often among those who do not desire such bonds. Those who have sexual intercourse with each other are engaging in an action that bespeaks a deep commitment to the other. Sexual union is supposed to have well recognized meanings. i.e., "I find you attractive"; "I care for you"; "I will try to work for your happiness"; "I wish to have a deep bond with you." Some who engage in sexual intercourse do not mean these things with their actions; they wish simply to use another for their own sexual pleasure. The illusion though is that those engaging in sexual intercourse outside of marriage cannot fulfill the promises their bodily actions make and those who are married can.  

     Twenty or thirty years ago when the sexual revolution was beginning in full swing, many argued that the value of the sexual revolution was that it was going to liberate men and women from repressive views of sexuality Many pointed to Christianity as the source of sexual repression. But after all the sexual chaos some think that once again the bible and its sexual philosophies are beginning to look a lot more like wisdom. But we will only have more of the same darkness if we go back to it. Actually there is no going back, we need to go into a new light and create a new faith based on intelligent understanding of the human condition. If we hinge our lives on a group of quotable sayings of doubtful origin we will only go back to the hell that many have been trying to escape.  

Going back to ignorance is not the answer.  

     The Vatican deceives humanity in its use of the terms "moral" and "morality." It is a mistake to let the Vatican define these terms for they are perhaps the least “moral” organization in the history of mankind. Its long-standing claim of providing "moral leadership" reflects its own moral bankruptcy that gets projected out like any other ego pattern. What they cannot see as immoral within gets projected out as an obsession with what is wrong or immoral with everyone else’s thinking and actions. If we are to move forward with human sexual evolution (love) Vatican influence must be neutralized. Large scale justified public criticism of the Vatican, the likes of which have not been seen before would be a first step in increasing our sexual intelligence. We are approaching the time when we must be quick to identify Vatican activities that are designed to promote the Vatican’s political interests over the welfare of humanities. There is no escape from confronting the massive insanity that sets itself up against intelligence. Only if the truth is recognized can we open our intelligence and move onward toward our collective soul destiny. Denying the truth destroys the possibility for evolution, and sanities cause falters creating wide spread human misery.    

     From the Christian view unmarried people have not prepared themselves to fulfill the promise of working for another's happiness, or achieving a deep bond with another. Christian marriage is supposed to signal our intention of doing this, of fulfilling the promise of deep love bonds that last. Something that the bible tells us we should do whether we know how or not. It does not talk about us having to learn and experiment and risk a lot in that learning. Sexual intimacy plays a major role in the revealing of one person to another for with it we do expose our most vulnerable sides. Sexual intimacy provides an opportunity for giving oneself to another in the deepest way and yet modern religious and legal definitions of marriage mean it also in an exclusive way. This topic of exclusivity is the topic of volume four of The Marriage of Souls for in or with this we can really trap our souls. There is no doubt that when we investigate subjects like sex, love, marriage and souls we will enter some deep territory that can take years to sort out. Christian morality has not offered successful pathways to permanent love bonds that last for it has not led people to really understand the issues that really matter.

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