One of the most difficult aspects of human nature is the gravity of possession. If one loves it is natural to want to possess because the cosmic intelligence designed the universe this way. Just like the sun loves to possess the planets with gravity we love to possess those objects in our environment. And to a point, humans, like the planets, love to be possessed by the sun or a central loving secure being. Written into both the laws of man and the laws of nature is a possessiveness and attachment to what is loved. But can we ever possess another being? Can we ever possess another soul like we would possess a car or house? We all like to be relatively near those we love like the planets like to be near the sun. But when that nearness turns to obsession, control, and manipulation we slip onto the dark side of the force. Jealousy is not natural. The planets do not waist their time being jealous of each other. There is nothing natural about wanting to be the only planet in the solar system. And we cannot possess or buy a sun. The Marriage of Souls deals with the tremendous problem of attachment and possessiveness by avoiding the ego's drive toward exclusivity. Instead of being the only planet in the solar system we are joined by other beings. We have to share the light and the love. We can still bask in the field of belonging, we can all belong to each other, but no one can get too possessive of another. HeartHealth deals with these problems by cave diving into these feelings and dealing with them in as straightforward a manner as possible. In HeartHealth we can feel our feelings and make ourselves vulnerable to them and in this way they will not get expressed so negatively out into the environment and into our relationships with others.

     The heart center is actually the doorway to our deepest beings. It is a portal that opens and closes depending on our responses to our present and past life circumstances. The majority of adults live life with this center closed down so they do not feel much do not suffer too much. Our ability to feel is directly related to the degree we open or close this heart center which is our capacity to feel not think. Most people prefer to live with, "I'm all right, everything is fine" type of attitude but this is just the head trying to protect it's self-image. In HeartHealth our basic path is to open the heart wider and wider as we grow and evolve our being.

     There are two entirely different views of the universe and everything in it. There is the minds view, set up form the separate observer type consciousness and there is the hearts point of reference which is completely different. Whenever we look at anything; from the psychology of relationships to pain and suffering to spirituality and enlightenment, the hearts perceptual perspective will always be radically different than the separative ego mind. The heart sees things pretty much upside down from the head which is cut off from the heart. When the heart is under the dominion of the separate self we are bound to suffer until the heart breaks free.

                                                                                                Christopher Hills

     On an emotional level, the heart center represents the security center, which is the most basic of emotions. All our perceptions about life and ourselves are boiled down to one feeling of self, and we either feel secure or insecure about ourselves and our life situation. Most people equate these feelings of security and insecurity to falling in and out of love. Most songs on the radio are about these feelings. Feelings are what our entire organism does to simplify all our perceptions into one meaningful whole. When we feel secure or in love everything feels right. But when those awful insecure feelings strike we cannot help but feel that there is something very much wrong with our life or with our lover.

     It is a good time to look at the difference between what is called the heart center or cardiac chakra and the pure heart we have been talking about. The pure heart is the pure capacity to feel, hurt, care, love, move, be, and intuitively perceive the universe with intelligence. The heart center is the doorway to this universe of true being. That doorway is full of emotional disturbances like the turbulent winds of the jet stream. There are certain forces that make up the structure of this center which can best be viewed on the Color Psychology site and understood in totality when contrasted against the other perceptual levels of consciousness. HeartHealth deals pretty much exclusively with the heart center or the security center with the objective of moving through the trubulent emotions to get to the stratopshere of inner consciousness where things are handled from a more pure level of being.

     Security is that state of inner certainty, it is a state of grace. It is that river of feeling that carries that constant message that life will deliver everything that we need to full fill ourselves on every level of consciousness. Insecurity is that terrible feeling inside which occurs when the heart center spins negatively and we are constantly expecting something to go wrong. We feel incomplete. And we are afraid that we never will be totally fulfilled. Insecurity is that feeling of emptiness, of missing out on something essential to our happiness. Insecurity is the space of being out of the heart, that heart meaning our own totality which sits waiting for us beyond the gateway, beyond the heart chakra or center. When we are not centered in the heart we naturally feel insecure or empty. We are acutally missing something. We are missing our own hearts and are mistakingly trying to fill up the whole in the wrong way. And this brings us a lot of pain.

     When we wallow in the throws of misery, when our heart bleeds, and the blood flows, it is all to easy to mistake our true heart for the swan song of the ego. In this as in  all other perceptual centers, the ego (separate self) sits like a king upon the throne of our consciousness, controlling most of our perceptions, experiences, and feelings. The ego sits at the doorway to the genuine heart. Many of the feelings which seem to be very heart-felt (because they arise from the heart center) are really ego emotions. Most often, the heaviness we feel around our hearts is actually the ego shutting off the good flow of feelings that naturally emanate from the deeper heart. For those who are blessed with big hearts the more they close down the more pain they feel in their heart center. The ego, our self consciousness, can sit like a dam obstructing the natural flow of heart energy and we can experience this pain physically in our chest.

     Jealousy, possession, attachment, neediness, and issues of control are all associated with the ego domination of the heart center. These feelings relate to our sense of insecurity. The more secure the less possessive, jealous and needy we are. Insecurity is really the offspring of ego consciousness. The separate self, that self that is cut off from the cosmic consciousness, cosmic intelligence or heart computer creates a false self image that it has to protect. So in the ultimate sense it is only when we dissolve the ego altogether that we move into that state of grace and inner security. We can do this when we move toward the grace of love, but not the romantic type of love which is basically only a temporary collapse of ego structures.

     This green level perceptual or security center represents the universal need in nature to gather from the environment well being, sustenance, love, energy, and all those things that makes life possible. It is the basic drive of green plants, to reach for the light. Humans, instead of reaching for the light reach out for another person with which they hope to complete themselves. Many souls are crushed from the shere lack of love from their parents and this leaves them with a deep and penetrating sense of insecurity which they seek to fill up with romantic love, drugs, and many other things. After all, deep within the heart is that seed, that feeling of only wanting to love and be loved. Plants love to turn toward the light, they stretch for it, and so do we. We want to gather all that love, that sustenance, the energy in our relationships. But when we let our need and our ego make those decisions we get into trouble because we end up selecting people who eventually will hurt our true being. Though all true relationships are between hearts, and thus exist in the fourth dimension, we usually make our selections based on ego consciousness and this is an open invitation to suffering. Normal romance is that temporary collapse of ego boundaries, and though it feels good to find some way back into the heart, we eventually have to face the true quality of our consciousness and of our relationships.

This heart center, and all those feelings that come from it, is only the doorway to our deeper beings. For many it is simply easier to avoid the Tides of Love.

     If we close down to our feelings, we lose access to our deepest beings. One of the major reasons Buddha said, "life is suffering" is that he was open on a being level. He could feel and be one with all the suffering of life. All who enter know the turbulence, the storms of emotional love. In the Iliad, Ulysses had to chain himself to the mast of his ship to prevent his heart from leaping out of his chest when he heard the sirens song. The attachment to beauty or our attachments to anything are strong enough to wreck our ship of life. It was said in ancient times that it was only for saints to enter and master this center of attachment. Those who have entered and remained to work out all the turbulence have compassion for those who remain on the safer shores of other perceptual levels. (See the rainbow body)

                                                                                                Christopher Hills 

     Only the most courageous are brave enough to accept the ultimate tests of the heart center. Until we reach to the far shores of total openness we are bound to suffer through the many storms of the heart. Only the fool believes that he can reach the shores of divine impersonal love without sailing these rough seas. Those painful experiences that often sink us are invaluable, and we continue to receive them until we learn those lessons that do not come any other way. How can we master something that we avoid? This is why it is our intimate relationships with other people that provide the most powerful spiritual lessons. It is virtually impossible to master the heart center without entering the trials and tribulations of intimate and personal relationships.

     Like Ulysses we can enter into the irresistible tides of love but we must find the inner strength to pull back from the blinding force of love which swamps our other levels of consciousness. The deeper and more beautiful the love we fall for the greater the test. The litmus test of the Marriage of Souls comes with the assessment of our total situation and with that most important question: Does our new love destroy and create separations from our present loved ones? Are we suffering because of love? Love sickness can even occur in the midst of even the most beautiful and vulnerable love? The challenges are truly great for those who dare conquer the tides of love.

We can be the fool in love but even the fool
knows when to step back
and administer a dose of perceptual reality. 

We must learn to see when our love is blind and when it is in tune with the cosmic intelligence and our own deepest inner heart intelligence. When we risk relating to others from the heart we must also see that all the levels of consciousness are in proper alignment. We must face the differences eventually, those differences that usually spell the death of romance. Romance is that blindness to the differences that never lasts. We need courage to look at the differences before they break into those types of conflicts that destroy our precious heart to heart connections. So the most basic investigation in any love relationship is the willingness to communicate and work out all the differences and conflicts when they arise. If this willingness is there it does not matter what the differences are. With this willingness to communicate and change we can work it all out if we truly hold love in our hearts. But love never makes demands on the universe. Love, the true love of the heart is never trying to cut off our loved ones from their own freedom and individuality. The true love of the heart is beyond the ego controlled heart center which is into insecurity, jealousy, possession and control.